Ok, so here is the nugget I got at church today. Our pastor made the following comment, “Whatever you rehearse you eventually resemble.”
We have been talking about the concept of love and one of those concepts associated with love is forgiveness. We have a tendency of holding on to past wrongs. We rehearse the disappointment over and over again and in essence never really let it go. When the slightest future occurrence of wrong happens, we bring up all the wrongs that that individual has done to us. It then festers up and intensifies the situation. We may not say anything out loud to them, but our minds and hearts are thinking it. This causes self doubt and a lack of trust. Often we create scenarios that are not even there.
Try the following approaches to deal with this issue:
- Don’t become your own worst enemy. Forgive others and forgive yourself. The past is in the past, Now live in the present.
- Do not keep a record of wrongs. God doesn’t tally up our wrongs and neither should we tally up the wrongs of others. Life is too short.
- Get rid of the “I’ll forgive you but…” statements in your life.
- Allow for fresh starts. Holding on to the past stifles hopes for the future. Just imagine what you are missing out on by not moving forward. We all make mistakes. Now let them go!
Take a long look at the man in the mirror. Forgive, forget, and drop it. After that, live the life that God has for you.
25And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him and let it drop (leave it, let it go), in order that your Father Who is in heaven may also forgive you your [own] failings and shortcomings and let them drop. Mark 11:25 Amplified Bible